Positive Relationships and Expectations

POSITIVE RELATIONSHIPS AND EXPECTATIONS

"Achievement is largely the product of steadily raising one's level of aspiration and expectation"  Jack Nicklaus

An effective classroom management plan takes into consideration the importance of fostering positive relationships and expectations. An educator serves as both a guide and mentor offering students a path to social, civic and academic success.  "Education is based on a relationship, not a procedure" (Reasoner, 1991).  Students that feel valued will thrive.  Through relationships, educators create trust and offer security thereby increasing the likelihood for student success. Attitude and communication of expectations precludes future achievement. Communicate  positive expectations and students will flourish.  

The following strategies serve to create positive relationships and establish high expectations:

Student to Teacher

• Use student names and pronounce them correctly (validates the individual; they are worth time and respect)
• Treat students with dignity and respect regardless of behavior and choices (students will treat others with respect when shown it themselves)
• Smile (it is universal and opens doors)
• Listen and show interest (compliment an outfit, ask about a sports jersey, listen to their story).
• Use manners (please, thank you, I appreciate... manners go a long way in showing respect)
• Be inviting (greet students at the door, say good morning, create a welcoming environment)
• Show up (when possible, attend a student sporting, music, or community event)
• Verbalize positive, achievable expectations (if student know you believe in them, they will too)
• Maintain a positive attitude (positivity is contagious)

Student to Student

• Promote student self esteem (secure students are less likely to act negatively towards others)  
• Set clear and consistent classroom expectations (when students know what to expect of themselves and fellow students, they are able to focus on learning)
• Be inclusive (let student know they belong and are important)
• Model kindness and empathy (students will follow your lead)

Teacher-Family

• Open lines of communication (email, letters or phone calls.  Always respond promptly)  
• Be inviting
• Be available (morning drop offs or afternoon pick ups are opportunities for conversations)
• Offer opportunities for parent involvement (special projects, field trips, guest speakers).
• Recognize the good (Take time to recognize student achievement).

References: 

Fay, Jim & Funk, David (1995). Teaching With Love & Logic. Golden, CO: The Love and Logic Press In.

Wong, Harry & Wong, Rosemary (2009). The First Days of School. Mountain View, CA: Harry K. Wong Publications, Inc.

Reasoner, Robert (1991). Building Self Esteem. Consulting Psychologists Press

Pitterman, Cara. Back-to-School Checklist: Organizing for Success. Retrieved from: http://teacher.scholastic.com/professional/backtoschool/classmanagement.htm